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What can I do to get out of this rut?

I could do with some friendly advice on this one as to what I can do.

I just feel like my life is stuck in a rut. I’m working a job I don’t really like (sometimes it’s okay) just for the money then I go home to my lovely wife in our rented accomodation because we can’t afford to buy a place of our own.

My weekends are usually busy but I never seem to get any time (evenings or weekends) to myself to do my thing.

I’ve recently written a list of things that I want to do (like learn to play the guitar, write the book that’s been in my head for 7 years) and off the top of my head, without deep thinking, it’s 17 things!

I just don’t know what to do. Every day is the same and I’m getting increasingly frustrated that the plans we have aren’t progressing as fast as I’d like so I don’t feel like I can move on with things.

Some days, it’s all I can do to not scream Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!! at the top of my lungs for a long, long time!

Sounds like you’re feeling trapped. Gulp.

Sit down with your wife and tell her how you’re feeling. Ask her to help with making changes that may speed up your goals as a couple. If you want to be able to buy a house then think of ways you can reach that goal a little more efficiently.

Most people work jobs they don’t like. We almost never get to chose our dream jobs. If it’s wearing you out or taking more time out of your life you’d like then look for something else.

Get a book from the library on finanical planning and get a certificate of deposit. Reinvest the original amount plus interest over and over.

[Just read another question you'd asked awhile ago....]

Start *making* time for yourself. When was the last time you went for a walk just to think and relax with no particular destination?

Speaking of jobs, your wife needs to get one. I think a relationship is truly 50/50 and she needs to be doing her part to make the move happen as soon as possible. Tears and sorries don’t pay the rent. There is no excuse for her to not be working full time.

If you bring it up only to get more tears and reluctance then it’s time for marital counseling. I can see how this is placing a great strain upon you. Hopefully when faced with counseling she’ll understand how serious you are. She does sound depressed and needs to be evaluated.

Spend your Saturday mornings in the park outlining that book idea. Be more impulsive. Instead of keeping a list pick one thing and go with it. You need to re-evaluate where you’re going and what you really want. Your marriage definately needs to change or it’ll just end in resentment and divorce.

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